The only thing I can suggest is a Blackmagic Design Intensity Pro card. It will do HD res, NTSC and PAL.
http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B00...SIN=B001CN9GEA
The biggest problem is you're asking for something that nobody else wants -- therefore it's not made.
I don't know of many cards that do SECAM. SECAM hasn't been used in many years now, neither for broadcast nor recordings. It all moved to PAL about a decade ago. Only a few specific standard definition cards tend to do SECAM, for legacy transfers of old materials.
I don't remember if the older ATI All In Wonder Radeon cards do SECAM, would have to check. But you can't use that card anyway, as it's AGP, and I don't think you have an AGP slot (do you?) Of course, it doesn't do 1080i.
Both AVI (various codecs) and MPEG further limits your card choices.
And then almost nothing will record HD in VirtualDub. Those cards tend to be more closed systems, mostly designed for TV recording. The Blackmagic card will accept non-TV input, but I don't really know what is used for recording. You'll have to read up the official documents at the Blackmagic site to learn more.
I don't really know what you're doing. I have a feeling you're asking for features you really don't need. For example, what are you needing to capture in HD?
To do everything you want, you'd need several different specialized cards, on different specialized computers.