Ive been trying to make a quality kvcd (home movie)

for weeks that is uploadable by torrent etc etc... My first i made came out to be 500 ish mb and the quality wasnt that great...second third and fourth just are frustrating me(either too big or small)....After FINALLY finding out how to actually get a 137 min movie on one cd,my friends cant burn it or even play it in VLC... And its weird,i use tmpgenc with the recommended kvcd templates,then run through vcdeasy and i end up with the bin and cue files plus an .xml... but im not putting the xml in the torrent file,so im wondering if THATS why its not working when they DL it?????And its weird,i can click on the cue file and it opens and burns with nero just like its supposed to!(FOR ME) but not them after they dl it from torrent ...WTF ive been slaving ,and tweaking,and changing bitrates and templates for weeks...AND reading...(obv not in the right places) Im so frustrated... No im pissed WHY ISNT THERE A MORE SIMPLE GUIDE FOR EXACTLY WHAT I WANT TO DO?OR PROGRAM???? At other things im relatively smart (or at least i like to think) haha but this boggles my mind,like im losing sleep over it because IM losing and the CD is winning! haha
what i want.....to SIMPLY make a downloadable,burnable,sharable,watchable, 700ish size kvcd to share.IS THAT TOO MUCH TO ASK??????WTF God i prey that someone can help me! Grrrrrrrrrrrr
i guess my MAIN problem here is that its not able to open or burn on THEIR end,NOT mine... what could it be?What am i doing...Are these peers just SAYING that or what