http://www.tvpreservation.com/cartoo...1&pic=tut1.jpg
messed around with dvd wksp 2 and came up with this.
i'll apologise upfront for the poor jpg but hopefully between my ramblings and the picture you can deduce what i'm trying to do.
so onwards with the tutorial ... and i'm going to assume you know how to do most things like setting up menus, chapters, playlists etc.
[1] set up 2 menus
[2] make sure you've associated clips/captures with your buttons/titles.
[3] setup your playlist
in my example, i've setup a playlist for episode 2 in menu 1 where i play an intro first then the episode 2 capture. and the playlist will normally default to the menu that contains the link, "menu" in my example. see number 3 in the picture.
[4] now this is the special bit. highlight the second menu (the "assets" box in the bottom), then drag 'n drop this menu into the playlist for "episode 2" link. see number 4 in picture.
you should now see a popup menu giving you 2 options. "add menu" and "add menu button".
[5] select "add menu button" and you should get a dialog like number 5.
[6] in my example, i've selected episode 3 and clicked OK.
finally, number 6, you'll see your playlist has altered to give you the sequence you want. in my example, click episode 2, it will play intro, then capture 2, then go to menu 2 and highlight episode 3 link.
this is exactly what i was looking for when i posted the question. simple and easy. maybe dvdremakepro is a better tool for this? but doesn't matter. i've got what i wanted.
hope this helps the rest of you budding dvd makers out there.